See how people have their status messages as "It is complicated". And then you wonder, how can it be "complicated" you're either in or out of a relationship. This is one such example of complications!
This is a complex love story about P. He was the first guy she loved. He made her believe he liked her too. They were together for a while and then one day the guy decides to move on saying this is not going anywhere, let's look around and find other people.
Should have been the end of the story. But this was just Blow #1.
She tried hard to forget him, but every time she met new people she would compare and think he was so much better. And as time passed by, she began "hating" P. Hating in quotations because every time she even got a glimpse of him, she would go weak in her knees and withdraw away from him, fearing he would hurt her again.
Meanwhile he gets "committed" to another girl. And when she had opened up to him after he had assured her he will be there for her always, leaves her. Reason? The Jane was too plain for him. A few flings later P and his first girl get back together. Happily ever after? Not the case.
Both of them profess their love and he convinced her once again, that she was the only one he loved. She wasn't convinced at all, but as time passed by she gave in.
Was she stupid or what?! Or the guy was a real smooth talker. Whatever it was, they were happy for a while and then followed the usual problems.
Jealousy. Insecurity.
But on the positive side, no signs of infidelity from the guy considering his history.
They made compromises. They had fights.
Both of them had shortcomings.
And then he leaves her again. Blow #2.
And the cycle repeats.
Neither of them is over the other but they are not together.
Hence, the status " It is complicated".
Questions I have for you : I probably have to get married soon. I don't want to be in P's situation where he leaves her and goes as per his convenience. I'm married and I realize some qualities in him are not to my taste and vice-versa. Both of us compromise. And that is how it is meant to be.
Considering you are happy with someone, and you have a few fights and make up, repeating in an infinite cycle, what is the condition to check to get out of the loop? How does one person decide "The End"?
This is a complex love story about P. He was the first guy she loved. He made her believe he liked her too. They were together for a while and then one day the guy decides to move on saying this is not going anywhere, let's look around and find other people.
Should have been the end of the story. But this was just Blow #1.
She tried hard to forget him, but every time she met new people she would compare and think he was so much better. And as time passed by, she began "hating" P. Hating in quotations because every time she even got a glimpse of him, she would go weak in her knees and withdraw away from him, fearing he would hurt her again.
Meanwhile he gets "committed" to another girl. And when she had opened up to him after he had assured her he will be there for her always, leaves her. Reason? The Jane was too plain for him. A few flings later P and his first girl get back together. Happily ever after? Not the case.
Both of them profess their love and he convinced her once again, that she was the only one he loved. She wasn't convinced at all, but as time passed by she gave in.
Was she stupid or what?! Or the guy was a real smooth talker. Whatever it was, they were happy for a while and then followed the usual problems.
Jealousy. Insecurity.
But on the positive side, no signs of infidelity from the guy considering his history.
They made compromises. They had fights.
Both of them had shortcomings.
And then he leaves her again. Blow #2.
And the cycle repeats.
Neither of them is over the other but they are not together.
Hence, the status " It is complicated".
Questions I have for you : I probably have to get married soon. I don't want to be in P's situation where he leaves her and goes as per his convenience. I'm married and I realize some qualities in him are not to my taste and vice-versa. Both of us compromise. And that is how it is meant to be.
Considering you are happy with someone, and you have a few fights and make up, repeating in an infinite cycle, what is the condition to check to get out of the loop? How does one person decide "The End"?
1 comment:
Good post, just a little confused by the first line of third para- too many he, she, him and her.
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