Surprise. Surprise!

Totally unexpected day:

During the break that we get at the place where I work at, I was talking to my co-worker. Young kid. (19 I think) I was asking him about sororities and fraternities and stuff. Then we had run out of things to talk about, so I asked him how his love life was advancing. (He had mentioned earlier that he was trying, but he didn't know where it was going) So just to make conversation I asked him if she came and ate at the food court we worked at. He was like, "they don't come here" . Hint HINT! I was supposed to understand, but I didn't get it. Then I was like, "What, you like two girls is it?" Then he goes No... And then Indian mentality no, I thought maybe he didn't want people sitting behind us to overhear that we were talking about somebody he loved and that's why he used plurals instead of a "she". But, turned out to be totally unexpected. 

He: I'm gay.

Me: Oh. I am so sorry for not understanding.

He: That's ok, I hadn't mentioned it so a lot of people would assume it would be a she.

Me: (Curiosity full peak levels. It was the first time ever that I spoke to somebody who was differently oriented.)

      Is it ok if I ask you questions. I am just curious..

He: Yeah it's fine.

Me: So how did you first know that you weren't interested in girls?

He: Back in the fifth-sixth grade when all the guys used to like girls, I never felt anything for them. I liked the guys.

Me(Hmm. So it starts off from when they're kids... Interesting) So you're not even Bi?

He: No. As much as my older brothers wished that to be true, it is not. I've never been out with a girl.

Me: Oh, so your family knows?

He: Yeah they do.

Me: Oh. That's nice. You know, I never thought you'd not like girls. I mean it didn't seem like that at all..

He: Yeah, it is very difficult even for me to know if people are gay or not. A lot of people who you'd expect to be gay are actually not, and a lot of them who you think wouldn't be, actually are gay.

Me: So how are you going about looking for people?

He: There is an organization on -campus, but I haven't joined it, I don't like it.

Me: Oh, that long-haired guy is a part of it right? (There's this guy who is openly gay- Wears t-shirts which say, "Gay? Fine by me" in different colors everyday)

He: Yeah, he is. But they're all activists, which I am not. So it becomes all the more difficult for me to try and figure out who's gay and approach them.

Me. Yeah.

Our break was over and we had to get back to work.. 

It was kinda awkward, but it wasn't that hard to accept. In fact I kinda felt bad for him. First he had to figure out who is gay. Then he has to find someone who'd complement his personality! Finding the right one has such a minimal chance in this case. 

My friends and I had had this conversation long back. When we were kids, almost. 

"What if it your kid turns out to be homosexual? Would you disown him/her? "

One of the guys was like, No. I'd accept him. And that guy immediately went off my potential to-be-husbands list. I was shocked with his liberal thinking. But now I think differently. I don't know what I'd do, but I know for sure that I don't have such a rigid point of view anymore.. 

Time changes you...nay? 

Btw, what would you do if your kid turns out to be homosexual?

The Parting

My room-mate left yesterday and the room is suddenly empty. I mean when she was here it wasn't like I would speak to her all the time, but atleast her presence was felt. Now it suddenly feels like I'm all alone in this big bad world. Ok full dramatizing it only no? But no, I actually miss her..

Mmm..So before she left we were awake till 4 am..talking about ourselves, what we thought of each other, about others, love, life after this and all... Bits and parts of the conversation:

Background info: Topic was about love/husband etc. We're all single.. by_choice/otherwise.

S: Somewhere some body is made for me. I believe in destiny.
A: You have to believe, you don't have an option. :))

I felt good about the fact that she thought I was a good human being even though I can be a little rude at times. And she thought I could brighten up someone's otherwise dull day just by talking to them. :) Now, that was something!

We dropped her off to her new destination which was about an hour's drive from here. A guy she knew was kind enough to take us all and say the final good-bye. We had heard from her that the guy is super intelligent and all that. So we were kind of curious to see him. All these intelligent types are a little too careless I feel. (Based on a few other intellectual souls that I know)
So this guy picks us up and we drive off for about 10 miles before he realizes the fuel tank is almost empty. And the bad thing about this country is that you have to drive far and wide before you get to a gas station. So we headed back, all the way speculating about how many miles we would have to push the car back. Luckily for us, we reached  before we ran out of gas completely. On the way back he's trying to drive fast because the logic was to reach back before we run out of fuel. :)) I was like, the faster you go the more fuel you spend. He's like, "Oh yeah." And then slows down!

The ride this time was without any more casualties. I wouldn't know. I was sleeping. Good thing about me travelling is I can sleep wherever whenever. Bad thing is my mouth is open a lot of the times.....and if you are sitting beside me, you could be in a mess :P

We reached the destination and had a look around the Capitol building. While we were taking pics, I realized Mr. Smart_guy had forgotten to shut his car door and it was wide open on a busy road! Luckily nobody crashed into it. Then after he closes the door, I ask him if he had the keys. After I ask, he checks, and says yeah they're in my pocket! OMG what a bhulakkad!

I always thought my guy should be full intelligent sorts. Now I think he should be responsible more than anything else.

After the interesting journey, we dropped her off, pacified the crying girl, managed not to cry and headed back to the empty house.

The time in our lives can be likened to walking an empty long road. No matter how many people you meet on the road, you have to reach your destination by yourself, all alone.

PS: If you ever happen to read this, I miss you.

Zakir Naik - #@%$^&%^

I am not a religious person. And most of the times I don't care about who is saying what about their respective religions. But the day I saw this video,(Watch it here), by Dr. Zakir Naik, I was angered and mad at this guy.  I mean at the end of it and while the speech was happening I wanted to yell at him, and I was wondering why the girl didn't do the same! I felt she was humiliated for no reason.

I mean who is this guy dude? What gives him the authority to act like he knows everything? Especially the comment at the end! Derogatory.
I so hate him. How flawed his logic is. Apparently, "There are more women in the world than men" and that's why these guys are allowed to have more than one wives. Before making a statement like that, he should've checked  his facts. In fact there are more men in all these so called Muslim nations than the rest of the world. I think that shows a lot about how well a girl child is treated there.

He goes on to claim that in fact Islam is actually stabilizing the world sex ratio by practicing polygamy. Then in that case Mr. Naik, Muslim guys should be marrying women from Russia and the US and the other developed countries since those are the countries where the women to men ration is slightly higher and that too only in certain age groups. For the rest, the ratio is just about equal.

Look at his confidence while stating his so-called "facts". You would feel like an idiot if you oppose him because he says it with such high authority. No wonder the guys that follow him believe and love everything he says and does. They think it is true. But please guys open up a little and read up before blindly supporting a personality like this as*****!

Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants ;)

Remember in one of my previous posts I wrote I am going farther away from everyone as each day passes by? Turns out, every problem has a quick-fix solution. Except of course if it is of the NP-Hard variety. No matter which part of the world you are in, the heart to heart connection is just a phone call away! I usually speak to Mom for about 10 mins everyday. But last night it went on for about an hour And then spoke to my sis. I think I found my best friend for life yesterday.

There was a point in life when I wouldn't share anything with her. That happened because, I once told her a couple of things and she was like,I'll go tell Mom and Dad wait! :)) Who would want to share anything with such a kid? So  from that point on, we only spoke about impersonal stuff and the gap between us widened.

Somehow yesterday we got talking and went on for a couple hours. All the biggest, darkest secrets of our lives came tumbling out. Some were shocking. Some funny. But whatever it was that we shared, both of us felt the gap close. And THAT people, is the best feeling in the whole wide world.

We're both so different in so many ways, yet we share so many common things. (Common parents for one. :P ) But on a more serious note, both of us hate it when someone we talk to, maybe just an acquaintance, goes and talks about us to others. We wouldn't do that to others. And expect the same from them.
We don't talk that much, although the degree varies- she's of the extreme variety-keeps mum most of the times whereas I only talk to certain people.

Sisters have similar tastes in clothes? Don't know, but we do. And it doesn't match with the other set of cousins that we have.

Just remembered something. I sometimes hate eating Rice. But was forced to eat it every morning. (This was when I was in the third grade and she didn't go to school yet. ) Mom wasn't looking and I put all my stuff in her plate. Paap she had to eat her stuff + mine. Some random memory. Feels nice now that I think of it. :)

On this note, listen to Evanescence. Or something else. Your wish ba! :D
P.S. : The title is the name of a movie she once loved.

Underground, Atlanta

One of the top 10 "must-watch" places in Atlanta, Georgia was Underground. It is just a street where you have different kinds of shops and eateries. Apparently a popular hotspot. But I have just one thing to say:  Don't go! The place is shady. You can feel it as soon as you enter the parking lot. When we went, it was almost empty and I felt like I was actually IN one of those horror movies where you are stranded on a deserted field and feel a pair of eyes watching you - that was my first thought but I didn't voice my opinion. 


We took a few brave steps- all huddled up in a group- and walked up to the information center. We met a guy on the way who was trying to help us by being our guide. When we asked the lady at the center what Underground was about she was trying to do her job and told us it was one of the popular destinations. But her eyes gave it away. She had that "Oh-dear-what-are-they-doing-here-I hope-nothing-happens-to-them sort of expression. We followed her directions and entered a building that would take us to the main street which was termed "Underground". Here, we ran into the "guide" again. He opened the door for us and then said, "Don't you guys help others in your country?" He basically wanted some money. So one of us took out his wallet and was looking for some quarters, when the guide's eyes fell on a $5 bill. He actually pulled it out of the wallet and disappeared!
That was probably a good time to turn back and head back to the car, but we were curious about the "must-watch-location". So then we walked a bit further into the building and into an underground street. It felt like any street in India- crowded, colorful, carts selling clothes/ accessories. Except that it was only colored people that we saw everywhere. My 6 foot friend was bumped into by a tall colored guy for no reason- almost egging him on for a fight.
And that was when we decided we had seen enough. We quickly got on the escalator and exited the building. It was quite a close call.


We were quite unsettled and to calm down a bit, we started joking about how K probably had contracted HIV by shaking hands with the guide. He actually held his hand still all the way back to the Hotel room and then washed it with soap and water before touching anything/ anyone.

I can't understand how it is in the top 5 places to visit in Atlanta. I don't know who to complain to about this or how this place can be removed from that list of places to visit. Thought the blog could be a good start. A definite no-no to this place, unless you want to be mugged or even worse- killed.

Skiing

I went skiing some time back and it was a lot of fun the first two times I went up the hill. Then it started to get to me. Here's a couple of things to keep in mind if you want a longer, better skiing experience.

• Do not wear jeans! Wear nylon pants or something that doesn't absorb water. Same with the jacket.
• Wear waterproof gloves.
• See to it that your boots are your size and not too tight. If you think there's something wrong with them, ask for help and get it checked. 
• When you rent boots and skiis and if you happen to exchange your shoes for another size, don't forget to change the screw settings of your skiis.
• Try not to get snow inside you. Once that happens snow melts and that is the end of your skiing experience.
• To slow down, your skiis should form an inverted 'V' .
  The ski poles do not help you in anything except maintaining balance. They can't help you change the direction. Your feet and you do that!
• Be prepared to FALL!! You will fall for sure, and it is part of the fun. So go ahead, enjoy!

Happy skiing :)

Movies and TV shows

I'm totally hooked onto this series - Modern Family.. OMG it is hilarious!
Atleast from what I've seen so far..

Just watched No one killed Jessica. Made me read more about the case and the offenders. I can't believe the kind of people that live in the world. I mean you get all kinds. But these guys are just beyond belief.
Coming to the movie, I thought Rani was so not the one for the role she  played. I mean the language does not come easily to her and it sounded so wannabe. Priyanka Chopra would have been a better fit. Or Preity maybe?

Wondering what Bharati Yadav  had to go through/going_through.. She's probably killed herself a thousand times for that one lie.

Watched The Green Hornet. Was skeptical about watching it in the beginning because of the "Crime" and "thriller" tags attached to it on imdb. But it turned out to be a comedy- very unexpected but totally fun. The last part was a bit of a drag but otherwise I laughed out aloud so many times! A must-watch if you ask me.

Watching Prison Break. I know it's a little late, but I'm living/loving it. I got a little too carried away and actually cried in one of the episodes. :D Robin Tunney's acting disappoints me though. I mean whenever she's on-screen I'm looking for flaws in her. I don't know why but I can't stop. I enjoy it thoroughly ;)
Oh and Wentworth Miller's character is so awesome. Kinda close to my idea of the "dream guy". I want to know how he is in real life. Go on a date with him maybe. Tried looking online but couldn't find stuff about his gf. Is he gay? I hope not.

And I wanna watch No strings attached. I like Ashton Kutcher. His comic timing is perfect. Plus, he is damn good-looking.

Gollum?

Loved the LOTR. Especially Gollum. This is dedicated to him. :)


Oh gollum how I empathize with thee!
In his master he trusted,
But the trust wasn't meant to be!
He turned slightly demented, 
but a small part of him was undented.
In his mind there were always two paths-
He always chose the one that would get him wrath.
It wasn't his fault.
What he did was always wielded by the ring
He thought the path he took would make him king
But all he got in the end, was a nasty fling.

Dream Guy

You know you are ready to get married to the guy:

1. When you've heard all his stories but still don't mind listening to them and laughing like you've heard it for the first time.
2. From the way you feel every time you look at him.
3. When he looks at you and he has a twinkle in his eyes.
4. You know it when all it takes is a smile from him to calm you down and forget your worries.
5. You know it's him when You have panic attacks and the only person you trust to soothe your nerves is him. 
6. When someone at a huge party farts and you immediately know it's your guy from the familiar smell.
7. You can tell him anything under the sun knowing he wont be judging you.
8. When you think of nobody but him to yell at when something goes wrong anywhere. And he wouldn't mind.
9. When he understands you and gives you your time to discover things/people for what/who they are.
10. When he let's you make your own mistakes and ends it with a "I told you so" but still loves you no matter what.
11. You love the way he smells even when he isn't wearing perfume.
12. When your family loves being around him and he genuinely cares for everyone.

Oh my dream guy where art thou?
In my dreams only?

Going the Distance - Review/Experience

It is a feel good movie. Watch it with your gf/bf. Both of you will feel good.

I watched it with a couple of girls. All of whom had had a break-up or were in a long-distance relationship. Lol! Not the best company to watch the movie with!
By the end of the movie two of them were almost crying! Sha. Had to cheer them up with gooey chocolate brownie. So that was the background info.

As far as the story goes it's pretty predictable. They meet at a bar/gaming center and realize they have a lot in common. She's on an internship at NY. While he works at NY for a music company. After 6 weeks of going out, it's time for the intern to move back to LA. A lot of factors come into picture. The distance, the difference in time-zones, the missing physical proximity. A few surprise visits. Funny fantasies(?). Trying to make up for the lack of sex. Trying to do everything together, even after the distance.
Even after all the adjustments, even when they themselves are happy with the whole set-up, it's the people around who cause the most damage. Friends and family bring in the insecurities of being in a long-distance.

How do you know he's not cheating on you? How do you know he is doing what he says he is doing. These are some of the questions they raise.
Jealousy.
Important decisions to make.
Priorities: Career or love?
And the inevitable happens- they break up.
But in the end love prevails. And they're back together!
Oh these movies! Make you believe anything is possible.

Best friends? Maybe not.

So, I just got off the phone with my best friend. I've known him since about 12 years now. Right from school to now we've kept in touch. We were pretty close. Quite the opposite in disposition. I would get home from school everyday and tell him all about what happened in school. And he would just sit there listening. Never talking. Considering I am usually quiet one, you can imagine how quiet he must be. Hmm...So maybe we are not quite different after all.

So yeah we grew up. Made friends. Had crushes. I would tell him all about them. Tell him how it breaks my heart to see them in love with someone else. I remember even crying over the phone once for some other guy and he would just console me. He told me about his girl and how she lied to him.

All this while never did we have feelings for each other. I mean I cannot think of him as "my guy".

Today he calls me and says I've been thinking from sometime now, and I think I see you more than just a best friend. I was like :O!
Then he goes on to tell me about sometime where he had introduced me to one of his friends and I spoke to him more than I did with him. He was uncomfortable then, but brushed off his feelings thinking they were just best-friendish feelings. When he thought back about it recently, he thinks he was Jealous.

We recently went on a trip together. Friends and family included. I thought I saw a look in his eyes- an irritated sort of expression when I wasn't spending as much time with him. I sorta brushed it aside.
Didn't realize what was about to come.

Now it's all so weird- I mean I don't feel anything for him. Like nothing! But then thinking about how our families our close and him knowing everything about me..it probably would seem wise to say yes to him.
But then again I don't love him...I feel bad that I will be breaking his heart, coz I know exactly what it feels like when someone breaks your heart.
Strange is love.

I told him maybe he thinks this is love because he has opened up to me. Maybe he just needs to talk to other people more. (Didn't know what else to tell him)
Then he says take your time and think about it.....But I am pretty sure about what I feel for him...
How do I tell him that without breaking his heart?
Feeling weird/bad that I lost my bestie. Things will never be the same again now.
Why oh why do relationships have to be so complicated?!
Why oh why can't a girl and a guy be best friends!!!!